Friday, May 12, 2006

Hostess Hotties


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My response to the discussions about sexism, gender roles in the media and a certain ad for a videoblog "hostess"

13 Comments:

Blogger Killer B said...

Solidarity, Anne! Yes.

You said so many things to which I want to comment.

The thing I want women to know is that they DON'T have to be silent and passive to "get a man." I've been in successful relationships because I stand up for myself. I've been equally hurt when I did not (though obviously not solely for that reason). THAT is an experience far too many of us share, and that is part of this discussion that needs to continue.

I'm not out of the game. I just didn't know this would all happen, and I need to better prepare myself for the personal attacks next time. But I'm in, I'm here. Thank you for the support. Thank you for understanding and speaking out. We all have to keep doing it in different ways. Eventually, it will make a change. I'd argue it already is ;)

7:16 PM  
Blogger bottomunion said...

Yes, pointing fingers trigger other fingers to be pointed at you. It's the nature of the pointing finger game, and it's one of the reason's why I choose to ride the pine.

I will reply to this and all the other videos on this topic soon, I think. Marination.

6:35 AM  
Blogger Anne Walk said...

hey B,

glad to see you're still kicking!

hey bottomunion,

yes, pointing fingers always gets a reaction and, while i have no idea what riding the pine is, marination is always good.

8:49 AM  
Blogger Tessa said...

Hey Anne,

That was a fantastic vlog.
I am still young and have much to learn but I am definitely finding that the world appears convoluted with the more I learn about where a woman's 'place' should be.

This hottie syndrome seems to be completely in control of my age group. It is sad to admit, but I cannot help but strive to fall under (some of) the requirements. It all comes down to a power struggle for myself, however fucked up that may be. As much as most of the attention received from the opposite sex is unwanted, I cannot help but feel a sense of pride in warrenting it.

Anyhoo...one day I'll learn.

keep it up

10:42 PM  
Blogger Anne Walk said...

well, tessa, it's hard not to when you can pull it off and, really, i don't see a problem with doing things to look happy with how you look (although, it's interesting to think about why it makes you happy).

flirting is fun! attention is delicious! it's all in how far you are willing to go for the approval ratings.

it saddens me when appearance is the most valued thing a woman is expected to bring to the table...or when you have to first attain the "image" before you can deliver the message - that the message is secondary (or doesn't matter at all)

have you seen a certain spa in kelowna called "Esteem"? i wonder how much esteem goes for these days...

11:23 PM  
Anonymous snark_19@hotmail.com said...

Anne,

riding the pine - sitting on the fence. I do it well. Marination - is that thinking on something or stewing it over. I guess here.

Do we want good looking women and men as hostesses? And/Or do we want a sense of authority(?) or gravitas(?) and is that only conveyed by the appearance. And do we prejudge based on that appearance? All too often we have our own personal and greater societal misconceptions and prejudices and the shutters come down (or go up) as we process the data before our eyes even before we hear a spoken word. Do we want a fair mix? Do we want everything to be judged on merit?

Do we want to be judged???

Experience only comes with age/mistakes, but also things (ideas, concepts, prejudices) become ingrained in the same time it takes for experience to develop.

Is there an answer? I think there is, I am not quite sure what it is but I have my ideas.

I ramble... and I hope I make some sense.

And yes, flirting is such delicious fun, Bill

9:51 PM  
Blogger Anne Walk said...

hi bill,

yes, it makes sense. i especially like the part where you talk about gaining experience and ingrained preconceptions at the same time. so true.

10:13 PM  
Blogger Chuck Olsen said...

By the way, I don't think the video where Heather and Derek discuss about gender issues is biased in any direction. I don't necessarily endorse his repeated comment, "I don't believe in keeping score" though that apparently resonated with some. That video, to me, represents how terribly complex this discussion is, and how we all bring different perspectives and histories to it.

11:23 PM  
Blogger Anne Walk said...

hi chuck,

yes, it is a complicated issue. more complicated than eye rolls and score keeping...but that was just my interpretation! smiles

6:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What I really really like about this video is the way that your addiction wafts past camera in the first few frames of picture. The smoke poofs past so beautifully. I'm serious. I have my own addictions and my need for comfort as well. I stand accused on occasion, but that smoke is nice, passing by in seconds.

thanks.

12:36 AM  
Anonymous Kent Bye said...

Hey Anne,
Thanks for making this video, and I think that it was very telling that you've been conditioned to say, "I'm sorry" a lot.

This is something that I don't experience.

Jen and I just made a response video and included some clips from this video. Enjoy.

12:13 PM  
Blogger Anne Walk said...

hi Kent!

just saw your and Jen's video and loved it. I was commenting on it at the very moment you were commenting here!

really, this whole conversation has got me swooning for the vlogosphere again.

12:17 PM  
Blogger Anne Walk said...

hi anonymous. curious about your addictions now. care to share?

12:20 PM  

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